Copyright (C) 2005 Elena Solomon, author of 12
There is a new type of dating that grows from inside the old, "dating
game" mode - evolved dating.
What is 'evolved dating'?
It is dating for people who KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING. In other words,
people who are aware of the dynamics of men-women relationships, body
language, effective communication, who have their life together and
who understand that there is more to dating than pick-up lines.
Those people DON'T need the usual dating games, playing hard-to-get
etc, etc. Like high-level sportsmen, they can spot each other in an
Those people are the ones that cannot be missed in a crowd, who draw
all the attention, even when they are seemingly doing nothing.
They don't lie or use tricks; they are refreshingly honest and straightforward.
And they never feel ashamed or inferior.
They possess calm, relaxed confidence that is as powerful as a nuclear
reactor. The people comment about them, "There is something special
about you" or call it, "a presence".
They simply look you in the eyes, and you start feeling weak at your
knees. Your heart skips a bit and you start feeling dizzy. I have experienced
this myself and seen this effect at work, once I learned how to do it.
You may now start wondering, how to gain such a power?
It's extremely simple, and at the same time it's hard work.
How can it be?
Because doing these things is really simple - but to make oneself doing
them, takes commitment and courage.
It's like giving up smoking - all you need to do is to stop buying your
own cigarettes and borrowing from others. It's really simple. But so
many people have been smoking for many years and complain they cannot
give up. (I have NEVER met a smoker who was over 20 and didn't want
People that are on the level of evolved dating are the people who are
successful. My definition of success is: success is doing what it takes
when you know you must do it.
Over the years I realized that there is really nothing new under the
sun, and the simple things are the ones that work the best.
I have also realized that anyone can develop him or herself to the level
of evolved dating, in as short a period as one year (or less).
The place to start is to STOP seeking approval of others.
This will have an effect so dramatic, you can see the results in a
month time - people will start asking you what happened and saying you
The key here: WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK ABOUT YOU IS *NONE* OF
Most people worry all their life what other people will think of them,
or what others will say, etc, etc. It's like
cutting your own wings. You can fly but you refuse because you are afraid
what others may think.
You maybe afraid being the best you can be because you think others
can feel uncomfortable in your company. The truth is, it's exactly the
other way around: by allowing yourself to be the best you can be, you
give permission to others to be the best they can be.
Stop worrying about others. You are the most important person in your
life and you only have so many years to live on this Earth. Make yourself
happy and stop taking responsibility for other people's happiness. Your
happiness is your choice. Their happiness is their choice. As long as
they are adults, their happiness is none of your business.
And stop faking it.
You fake things because you are afraid the others won't like you the
way you are. The truth is, the others are faking themselves just as
you do, to please you. If you are honest, you are allowing them to be
This is what evolved dating is about, and this is why those people are
so powerfully confident: they don't fake it. They simply ARE. They don't
seek your approval and they don't expect you to seek theirs.
Most people try to give themselves to other people.
People that are on the level of evolved dating give you the gift of
being YOURSELF. You don't have to fake it with them.
You can reach the level of evolved dating, too.
When do you want to start?
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Solomon is a dating coach.
Her latest book "12
Simple Rules" became #1 'Love
& Romance' bestseller in the leading
ebook distribution service in just ONE WEEK after the release. It shows
you EXACTLY how you can utilize the natural laws of attraction and our
in-built sexual strategies to win in the game of love.
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