Why Pick-Up Artists Can’t Seduce ALL The Women
by Scot McKay
Copyright 2006 X & Y Communications
I’ve been writing articles such as this for
quite some time now, and the research I’ve done on what attracts
men and women to each other has been going on a lot longer than that.
And if there’s one thing I’ve learned
to truly be entertained by, it’s some of these guys who proclaim
themselves to be “great pick up artists”. Many have learned
how to make a living at this, and can purportedly teach any man how
to be “good with women”. And some of them have the track
record to back it up.
I’ve seen several who claim to have slept with
tens of thousands of women. You and I both know there’s a market
for that kind of “expertise”, and LOTS of guys are willing
to pay to tap into that kind of magical “way with women”.
And I believe they deserve exactly what they want.
I cannot argue that.
What’s more, I don’t doubt these guys.
I’m sure they are telling the truth. But I am also absolutely
positive that there’s much more to success with women than “seduction”.
Why? Two reasons, mainly.
First, I’m no genius, but I’ve figured
out something over the years that seems to apply here. If I singularly
focus on ONE THING to the point of saturation, it soon loses its value
to me. It’s just not all that fun anymore. I just don’t
want to make a full time lifestyle out of keeping up with the expectation
of having sex with two different women every day.
I think that would, well, lose its shine after a couple
of years (?) or so. To me, something that becomes a full time job
just isn’t any fun anymore after a while. Besides…good
grief…how much “sexual variety” does it take before
the “novelty” wears off?
And that goes double if I go and make a JOB out of
it, teaching other guys how to have nonstop sex. Then it’s just
flat-out WORK after a short while. And I think this applies even to
sex. If I slept with a different woman—no, make that two—every
day for thirty years straight, I’d be around the 20,000 number
that one guy I’ve read about claims to “achieved”
(or is that “scored”?). And I’d be ready for a “vacation”.
Second, I…um…might at some point become
interested in BUILDING A RELATIONSHIP WITH A GREAT WOMAN. This, at
least where I come from, typically involves spending more than half
a day (max) with her. It also probably involves SEEING HER AGAIN SOME
Now, I fully understand that several of these “world
class pickup artists” in the so-called “seduction community”
have actually relocated to South America, Eastern Europe or other
places where the women are apparently more “sexually open”
than they are here in the good ol’ U-S-of-A.
Well, again. That’s fine for them. But on top
of the other reasons I’ve given for not joining them, add to
the list that I LIKE IT HERE. And I like the women here.
And there lies the kicker, party people. Clearly,
even if a “pickup artist” achieves “greatness”
in seducing women, there is always going to be a certain echelon of
women that he is NEVER, EVER going to be able to have. And despite
all the sexual “success” he claims, that has to be an
empty feeling. I know so…because that’s what happens anytime
the focus is on getting more and more of something. Greed is never
sufficiently fed, is it?
I hear one of you guys out there saying, “Oh
come on, McKay. Who would ever get sick of sex with two different
women a day?” Well, you would. Why? Because no matter how great
something is, if it’s ALL YOU’RE DOING it’s going
to get BORING.
So who are these women who even the “world class”
pick-up expert can’t “bed”? Simple. They’re
the ones with enough self-respect, confidence and intelligence not
to fall for being swindled into lowering their standards.
Take a look at the Dictionary.com definition of “seduce”:
se·duce tr.v. se·duced, se·duc·ing,
1. To lead away from duty, accepted principles, or
proper conduct. See Synonyms at lure.
2. To induce to engage in sex.
3. a. To entice or beguile into a desired state or
position. b. To win over; attract.
The woman who will not be “tricked” into
a half-day fling with a man who wants nothing more than sex is unattainable
to the “pick-up” artist. Ironically, it would appear that
the more women a pick-up artist has sex with, the lower the bar gets
set in terms of the pool from which he can draw from. Women who at
least want to take a shot at a committed relationship just aren’t
going to buy that. Ever.
Neither are the women who are confident enough not
to invest false hope in what are arrantly empty, deceitful promises
designed uniquely to get her in bed. The most confident women who
are relationship-minded are therefore out of bounds to the pick-up
artist. Such women deserve what they want. And they don’t want
what the seducer is proffering.
And to be sure, the man who deserves what he wants
in terms of attracting a confident, feminine woman who will be a loyal
mate is in a very interesting position. No, he’s not bedding
countless women. He knows what all is at stake. And ironically, if
he ever chose to, he could get not only the sharpest women we talked
about in the previous paragraph—he could get any woman who would
settle for a pick-up artist also.
Life is good when one deserves what one wants. One
tends to get it. Whatever “it” is.