Have You Got a Girlfriend? Here's How Not to Screw It Up
By John Alexander
Having a girlfriend can be a dangerous thing.
We become too dependent on our woman for our happiness,
and then if we get dumped, we find we've all of a sudden lost our
confidence. This results in being without sex for many months, until
we finally get a girlfriend again, and... the cycle repeats.
So to break this cycle, we need to REMAIN the attractive
You see, relationships can make us guys too lazy (since
the sex is so easy) and we lose that "high value" mindset.
It's crucial to keep that alpha male frame of mind that says, "I
am like a Lamborghini."
Do Lamborghini dealerships grovel to try to get people
to like them? Of course not. Instead they allow all the buyers to
come to them. Hell, Lamborghini doesn't even advertise. As a man,
you should have a similar confident mindset if you want to maximize
the attraction your girlfriend feels for you.
So, how do you keep that alpha mindset? First and
foremost, avoid chasing your girlfriend like a puppy dog. A basic
concept which will prevent her from ever treating you badly is what
I call Punishment and Reward.
If a woman engages in behavior which you disapprove
of, punish her by withdrawing your time and focusing on something
(or someone) else. If she does something you like (such as having
sex with you), reward her by giving her more of your time, talking
about her feelings, etc.
So whenever you do something nice for her, do it because
you're rewarding her. And DO reward her good behavior, if you want
more of it. Like I said, Punishment and Reward.
Then there's the issue of being a challenge. Women
act sweet when you're a challenge to them. They act bitchy when they
take you for granted and no longer feel like they need put out effort
to win your affections.
Often by around month 6 in a relationship is when
a woman really starts to take a guy for granted, so avoid that by
remaining a challenge.
So the solution to remaining the attractive, alpha
guy in your relationships is threefold:
1. Always be willing to focus your time on things
other than your girlfriend. Don't reward her for acting bitchy by
continuing to be around her when she does. On the other hand, too,
reward her for good behavior by giving her more of your time when
she acts sweet.
2. Always have it in the back of your mind that you
could end the relationship at any time. Don't explicitly threaten
her with that, but just make it a subtle implication. That way she'll
never become truly comfortable with the relationship and will keep
working to win you.
3. Always allow her to think that's she's just a little
bit more interested in you than you are in her. Again, this can be
very subtle, but if (for example) you're telling her 20 times a day
that you love her, and she's only telling you that twice, then obviously
the situation is out of whack.
John Alexander is author of How
to Become an Alpha Male, a dating and seduction success
system that will maximize your chances of getting and keeping that
dream woman you've got your eye on.