Tips: How To Tell If She's Interested
OK, I have a quick trick question for you.
That's right, I said a quick TRICK question.
How can you tell if a woman is interested in you?
So what gives?
Why am I asking you a trick question?
Because I'm trying to make you THINK.
I'm sure that, just like me, you've read a hundred
dating tips and articles that say things like:
"If she tilts her head to one side and strokes
her neck, that's a sign of interest..."
"If she licks her lips in a longing fashion,
that means she's interested in you..."
"If she laughs a lot, makes positive eye contact,
and touches you often, then she likes you..."
I remember when I first read all this stuff.
I thought to myself "Wow, cool! I must have
been missing these hints because I didn't know to look for them. Now I'll know when a woman is
interested in me...".
Well, there was ONE SMALL problem...
The problem is that women display these MAJOR INTEREST signals in about 1 of 1,000 interactions
And there was one BIG problem...
That problem was that none of the damn dating
tips I read said a single thing about how to MAKE women give you these signals.
In other words, what I realized is that average
guys like me who don't get "approached" by women need to learn not only WHAT to look for, but, more
importantly, how to actually CREATE ATTRACTION in women so they GAVE me these signals in the
So let me share with you some dating tips on how to
MAKE women feel ATTRACTION for you... and then I'll share some ideas on what to LOOK FOR to tell if
a woman is interested.
And my ideas will be a WEEEEEE BIT different than the ones you read in your flirting books.
OK, so you're out at a bar with a few friends, and it's time to meet some interesting women.
You look around, and none of the hot young babes in there seem to be tilting their heads to
one side, looking you in the eye, and licking their lips... so you decide to DO SOMETHING.
What do most guys do in this situation?
1) Nothing, because they're scared, or...
2) Something typical, like ask a girl to dance, or if he can buy her a drink.
If you're guilty of doing these, raise your
Then take your raised hand, and slap yourself
silly. Not too hard. But silly.
Here's a thought for you...
If you put 100 guys in a bar with one beautiful
women sitting alone, and you say to all 100 of the guys "Hey guys, which one of you can walk over to
that woman and do something to make that woman feel a SEXUAL ATTRACTION for you?"... I'd say that
if you're LUCKY, one of them will claim that he can do it.
In other words, for most guys, the idea of walking up to a girl they don't know and doing
something that will TRIGGER an attraction is completely outside of their universe.
This is one of the reasons why guys do things
like asking girls to dance, buying them drinks, etc.
Now, something you must understand when it comes to women and ATTRACTION is that women don't
feel ATTRACTION for WUSSIES.
ATTRACTION isn't a CHOICE.
It isn't logical (at least, on the surface).
But once you start to "get it", everything
changes. Your entire perspective changes once you "get it", and your results change instantly as
So here's a dating tip for you to try:
MESS WITH WOMEN.
That's right "mess with" them.
Because it INSTANTLY communicates that:
1) You could care less what she thinks of you.
2) You're a fun person.
3) You're unpredictable.
4) You're a bit of a "wild card"
5) You GET IT.
Now, you might be shaking your head right now
and saying "That's doesn't make any sense. Why would a woman feel attracted to me if I mess with
her instead of being nice?".
That's a good question.
But for now, take the hand that you slapped
yourself with earlier, and slap yourself again.
I want you to STOP following your "be nice and
kiss ass" instincts when you first meet a woman, and instead practice MESSING WITH HER.
Make fun of something.
Go to hand her something, then pull it away at the last second.
Shake your head in despair and tell her that
she's screwing up her chances with you.
Say something Cocky & Funny, then turn around
and walk away before she can respond to your face.
Can ya feel me, dog?
Now the good stuff...
HOW TO TELL IF SHE'S INTERESTED
Well this is what you were looking for, so here it is...
I'm going to give you a stupid-proof formula
for knowing whether or not a woman is interested in you.
Here it is:
1) You engage her.
2) She engages you back.
Yes, that's it. Please stop the applause long
enough that I can finish. You can clap later.
I know that this sounds a little "Duh-ish", but
stay with me here.
If I walk into a restaurant, and the hostess
asks me how many are in my party, and I answer with "Well, there are three of us. I guess there
will be FOUR if YOU join us..." and she laughs at my joke, then IT'S ON!
If I'm standing at the bar, and the woman next
to me bumps into my arm, and I turn and say "Hey, watch it, OK? Keep some space here, I need at
least a foot of room..." in a serious tone of voice... and she starts
playing along by smiling and moving away from me then back again playfully,
then IT'S ON!
If I'm talking to a woman that I met at the
magazine rack, and I ask her "What's with that huge purse of yours? You got a dog in there or
something?" and she starts laughing and making excuses, then IT'S ON!
In a nutshell, what I'm trying to say is:
1) Stop looking around for signals from women that they're "interested" in you.
2) Stop CARING whether or not a particular woman is interested in you.
3) Instead, start TRIGGERING the interest, and watching to see if women ENGAGE. If they do,
then assume that IT'S ON!
As long as you use how she's responding to what YOU do as your
gauge, then you'll have a MUCH easier time spotting the "she wants me"
...Because YOU ARE THE ONE CAUSING THEM.
want DOZENS AND DOZENS of great dating tips and ideas for making women
feel that powerful "chemistry" with you, then go download a copy of my
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took me countless hours to develop...
beating your head against the wall, and start taking advantage of the
years I've spent learning this stuff. You'll be SO glad you did.
I'll talk to you again soon.
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