By John AlexanderAuthor,
"How to Become an
An estimated 67% to 93% of human communication (according
to university researchers) is non-verbal, and your body language reveals
your internal emotional state. Whether someone's parents just died,
or whether they just got promoted to CEO... you can tell by observing
their body language.
So, as a man who tries to pick up and seduce women,
you should be mindful of what you're communicating non-verbally.
Body language consists of the following:
- Your movements. They should be nonchalant, as if
you're so fabulously successful that there's rarely a reason for you
to rush nor try to impress anybody. Move through the world doing what
you want and assuming that others will follow.
- The displacement of your body. Your arms and legs
should be spread out. Don't be afraid to take up space.
- Your voice. It should have a calm, soothing, and
commanding effect. Don't speak too fast or strain your voice.
- Your face. Keep your facial muscles relaxed. Never
tense your jaw, and only rarely should you frown or wrinkle your brow.
- Your shoulders. Keep them relaxed like they'd be
if you just got a massage. Don't raise them up like a nervous person.
I would even go as far as to say that you body language
is more important than anything you say, because if your body language
doesn't match what you say, then you won't succeed with women.
You see, if you tell a woman stories that convey your
confidence, but at the same time you slump over and fold your arms,
then you come across as fake.
I've picked up women before merely through the use
of my body language. For example, a couple months ago I was at a coffee
shop that I frequent, lounging on the couch, arms spread out, with
my feet up on the table.
The mindset I had was that I felt so comfortable that
it was as if I were in my home lounging on my own couch. It was as
if I owned the coffee shop.
The net result was that a girl sitting near me put
down her book and started engaging me in random small talk.
(Whenever an attractive girl you don't know starts
a random conversation with you, you should ALWAYS assume that she's
attracted to you. This is because women generally won't risk the whole
male-female dynamic, especially with a stranger, unless they feel
The conversation went on for awhile, I got her number,
called her that night, and a few days later we met and after several
hours went to her place, where I spent the night. (We finally had
sex in the morning.)
The bottom line though is that she became initially
attracted to me and approached me because of my body language.
Now, of course body language isn't enough. You also
must have an internal alpha male mindset that's consistent with your
But make no mistake about it... if your body language
conveys confidence, then your mood will also shift to become more
confident. And have you ever noticed how when you walk with a spring
in your step, you feel more upbeat?
Conversely, when you cast your eyes down and drag
your feet, you feel depressed. So your mindset also follows the body
language that you adopt.
So, in conclusion, be an alpha male with your mindset
and your body language. Be in a woman's personal space and be sexual
and interested in her, but at the same time don't be needy or desperate
for her attention. Just be comfortable and enjoy yourself.
And when your body language conveys that, it means
you'll later be comfortable and enjoying yourself... with the woman.
John Alexander is author of How
to Become an Alpha Male, a seduction success system for
men that will have you displaying body language that attracts women
like a magnet.