The Number One Secret Behind the Alpha Male's Body Language
By John AlexanderAuthor,
"How to Become an
Watch a man with high status--Brad Pitt, George Clooney,
or the CEO where you work--and you'll notice that he moves differently
than the rest of us. He gives off vibes that he is hot stuff, and
because of that, women get soaking wet over him.
You, too, can create that aura that makes you attractive
Have you ever noticed the way your friends look when
they're all nervous? They're looking down at the ground with their
arms crossed, fidgeting, with their voices cracking and their eyes
And when you give off that kind of body language yourself,
women don't want to be around you.
Now, think about successful guys. They've got girls
all over them and some great body language going on.
So, what's the number one secret between those high
status guys and the low status guys? You've probably guessed it...
the alpha males are relaxed and in control when it comes to social
Make no mistake about it... relaxation is the most
important mental state for you to be in.
With that in mind, here are some pointers for you
to develop the mindset and body language of an alpha male (and by
the way, if you think they're easy, you're right... you can make these
changes as early as tonight and have even the hottest girls clamoring
for your attention):
1. Don't allow yourself to feel worried. Just let
your worries go, since you can't solve any problem by worrying. So
suck it up, and quit thinking about what might go wrong. Just live
Now, I know what I just said is easier said than done
(to use an old--but relevant in this case--cliche). You've spent your
whole life up until now dwelling on thoughts that make you feel worried.
But what is this emotion we call "worry"?
When you think about it, it's simply the fear of what might happen
in the future. Essentially you're punishing yourself by feeling upset
before anything bad has happened. It makes no logical sense to worry!
So the solution is to avoid contemplating your worrisome
thoughts anymore. Identify them for what they are... toxic to your
emotional state, and... let them go.
Simply not dwelling on negative outcomes that make
you feel upset will reduce 90% of your worries.
2. A second strategy to relax is to breathe through
your abdomen rather than your chest.
When you breathe, imagine that you're bringing air
down to your stomach. Feel your belly rise and fall as you breathe.
3. Avoid nonverbal behaviors that are the opposite
- Raising your shoulders.
- Wrinkling your forehead.
- Fidgeting with your hands and/or legs.
- Tightening your facial muscles.
4. Relax all your muscles and slow down all of your
movements a notch.
Alpha males generally move unhurriedly, as if they
are in control of time itself. Beta males are nervous and make jerky
movements. Imagine you are standing and walking through a swimming
pool, where your movements are slow and fluid.
5. Relax your eyes and eyelids.
Beta males hold their eyelids wide open because they
are so nervous. Their eyes dart all around. Instead let your eyelids
rest. Look straight ahead. Only give things your attention if they
interest you. While you're out and about, do the affirmation to yourself,
"I am sexual, I am relaxed, and I am in control."
6. If someone wants your attention, move your head
A trait common to many beta males is being so eager
to please that when someone calls their name, you see them spin their
heads toward the person unnaturally fast.
John Alexander is author of "How
to Become an Alpha Male"... a seduction success
guide for men. Learn more advanced tips on how to develop the mind
set and body language of an alpha male.