Healthy Relationships  
  Relationship Help
  Free Relationship eBooks
  Become A Great Partner
  Attract Your Soulmate
  Make Every Date A Success
  Free: 10 Secrets About Men
  Make Every Man Want You
  Stupid Mistakes Women Make
  How To Attract Men
  Find The Man Of Your Dreams
  Soulmate Love Secrets
  Dangerous Relationships
  Is He A Dangerous Man?
  Understand Men 101
  Why Shouldn't You Call A Man?
  Dating Tips and Advice
  Marriage Tips and Advice
  Divorce Tips and Advice
  Celebrating Women
  Free Tantra Tips
  How To Captivate Men
  12 Simple Rules
  Flirting Secrets
  Men Made Easy
  Why Men Leave
  Get Your Man Back
  Bring Back Lost Love
  Cure Commitment Phobia
  Forget Your Ex In 24 Hrs
  Be The Woman Men Adore
  Be Irresistible To Men
  Drive Your Man Wild
  Give the Perfect Blow Job
  Have Killer Orgasms
  Create Relationship Magic
  Save The Marriage
  Divorce Decision
  Empowering Women
  Online Dating Tips
  Relationship Advice
  Sexual Health
  Libido Boosters
  Sex Toys, DVDs
  Pheromone Products
  Relationship Tips Blog
  Soul Kadee
  Self Improvement
  Romantic Gift Ideas
  Dating Central

Make Every Man Want You More With Marie Forleo

8 Steps to Create, Heal, Improve and Transform Your Relationships

How To Spot A Dangerous Man

 
 

The 8 Most Common Mistakes People Make In Relationships

By Brenda Shoshanna,
Author of Why Men Leave

Here Are Some Common Mistakes We Make That Ruin Our Relationships. Have you made any of these mistakes?

* Mistake #1

Trying To Change Your Partner.

"If they love me enough, they'll change to please me." So many believe that they can and will change their partner. It's only a matter of time. They say, "If he loves me enough, he'll change that small thing to please me."

But to your partner, that "small thing" isn't so small. Even if they do try to change to please you, very often they become resentful. "You don't love me for myself, but for the person you want me to be," they say. And it's true. When you try to change them they feel you don't really love them. You just want to turn them into someone to fill your needs.

*

Mistake #2

Feeling Like You're A Failure In Relationships.

When some people see that things aren't working they become depressed. They start to feel as though they're not loveable, that destiny is against them or that they will always be a failure in love.

The truth is that you're not a failure. You simple have not yet been taught important truths about relationships. Once you learn and practice new ideas and methods, you'll be able to handle your life in a way you may have never thought possible.

*

Mistake #3

Believing You Have To Be "Good Enough" To Keep Their Love.

Many feel they're not "good enough". They feel they have to turn into a pretzel to keep someone's love. Recently a woman came to me and said, "I finally found a wonderful man but I'm miserable in the relationship. Everyday I worry that he'll find out who I really am and leave."

This woman not only expected rejection, she actually did little things to bring it about. Soon she began to sabotage the relationship, finding fault with him at every turn. Although she didn't realize it, she did this to feel better about herself. The truth is we can never earn another person's love. The more we try the worse we feel. We must simply understand that who we truly are is entirely loveable. We must learn to make friends with ourselves.

*

Mistake #4

Rejecting Your Partner So They Can't Do It First

Many reject their partners as protection individuals against being rejected themselves. The bottom line is these may not feel they deserve a relationship, they feel they can't hold onto a partner because they haven't accepted themselves.

*

Mistake #5

Believing Your Partner Should Read Your Mind, And Know What You Want Without Your "Communicating" Clearly.

"If he/she really loved me, they'd know what I needed and give it to me." Many believe that if their partners really loved them, they would read their minds. It wouldn't be necessary to have to actually ask for what they wanted.

This is one of the most serious mistakes people make in relationships. Without truthful, open, communication no relationship can flourish. Effective communication, however, can be a skill. And though you may feel that you have repeated yourself a thousand times, that YOU HAVE communicated. There are available communication techniques which, in and of themselves, can save your relationship.

Not only is it necessary to know what you want, and to ask for it clearly (without producing guilt) - it is also necessary to be able to accept both yes and no.

*

Mistake #6

Believing It's Your Partner's Job To Make You Happy.

Your partner is not there to meet all your needs. If he/she says no, it doesn't mean he/she doesn't love you. Some demands may be impossible to fulfill. It is not your partner's job to make you happy. Your partner should be here to grow and share with you.

You must learn to make yourself happy, and make others happy as well. Love is based upon communicating, consideration and giving. First, however, you must be happy with yourself, before another can make you happy.

*

Mistake #7

Believing It's Hard To Get Him To Talk.

"No matter what I do I can't get him to talk, and I do not believe he is sharing all of his honest feelings with me." Many women claim they can't get men to talk. When time comes for intimate conversation guys clam up, offer a few grunts and expect women to magically understand what's going on.

Women feel shut out and men feel misunderstood. However, there is something women don't realize. Men want to talk. Under the right conditions, they'll talk all night long. Men desperately want to let others know what's going on. However, something else many don't realize is, men are more fragile than women. In order for them to talk, things have to be right.

All that's needed here is to learn how to create the right conditions, what is necessary for a man to feel safe enough with you to talk.

*

Mistake #8

Being Addicted To Fighting.

Many couples keep relationships alive and exciting by fighting. When they see their partner upset, it reassures them that they care. Others have seen their parents fighting and this is the only role model they have. Some are addicted to the "high" they get out of fighting. A few crave the feeling of domination or control.
Domination is not love. If it hurts it is abuse, not love.

Why Men LeaveClinical Psychologist and Psychoanalyst in private practice for over 20 years, and an international renown author, Dr. Brenda Shoshanna is also the resident relationship expert at i.village.com, a professor at Barnes & Noble University Online, and has offered over 500 talks and workshops to hospitals, universities and fortune 500 companies on building successful relationships.

All of Dr. Shoshanna's work has been for the purpose of helping people like yourself find the love, support and well-being they desire. Her ebook, Why Men Leave, is a revealing, intimate ebook program which is the result of years of psychological study and field research with a singular point -- to understand male psychology with regards to relationships, and derive from men themselves the fears they face, and hopes they have in a relationship.

 

 

How To Spot A Dangerous Man

How To be Irresistible to Men

This site contains links to other sites. We are not responsible for the content, software, or the privacy practices such Web sites. The Linked Sites are provided for your convenience only and you access them at your own risk.

Sitemap

No part of this website may be copied or reproduced without permission.
Your use of this website signifies agreement of our
Terms of Use| Privacy Policy
Our business is fully compliant with CAN-SPAM Regulations

eXTReMe Tracker